Defining Moments. That was a term one counselor used. Those are the things that happen in our lives that we take in and allow to define...

From the outside looking in, it's not always what it seems. One would think you’re the luckiest girl alive. I’d actually been told that....

Well meaning friends and family want to help. They don’t know how or even what to say, so they make suggestions. See your pastor for...

Often I hear partners doubt their own self worth and feel broken and alone. I get it. Spending years in a relationship where it’s said...

The other day as I walked around my neighborhood in tears, I realized that I was letting fear have its grip on me. I realized that some...

Or not. It all depends on your perspective. Or how you spent last night with all of the expectations of fun with friends or family. Or...

It’s been a bit. And I’m sorry. Lot’s of emotions going on at this time of year. Lot's of loss and loved ones who are hurting. Lot's of...

Safety during the holiday season. Is it really possible? Yes….as long as you’re not trying to wing it. You need to be prepared. What...

Truth be told, I’ve been procrastinating on writing this blog. As a coach I know what I need to do when I’m triggered yet here I am...

When the waves of panic hit and we feel out of control barely able to stand, time and time again, wondering if it will ever stop, those...

Emotional abuse is everywhere and is something that we are all capable of doing, just like we can all gaslight. The difference is motive....

What does grieving look like? It’s different for everyone. Often we think it’s a linear process that starts at one place and through...

You’ve been married for 20+ years, praying faithfully for your marriage to be healthy, godly and an example to those around you and your...

Throughout my marriage, I truly thought that I didn’t matter. In reality, that feeling began way before that, but it was reiterated over...

When I got married, it was forever. Or that’s what my intent was. Several years into my second marriage, I surrendered my heart to Jesus...

Boundaries with an Addict was one of my most read and referenced blogs. If you haven’t read it yet, please do so in order to better...

My heart is broken and I don’t know where to go from here. Let me explain. My last blog post was on not feeling safe at church. Other...

Nothing like Covid-19 to screw up church attendance. But then again there’s Betrayal Trauma. As a faithful church attendee, I don’t...

This is a hard post to write but since this topic is so common with partners, who become filled with guilt, it's time. So, here we go.......

Am I really crazy? Did that really happen and I just don’t remember it? I could have sworn I saw/said/did ______ but I guess I was wrong....