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Storm of Trauma
I live in Florida. In case you haven’t heard, we just finished hurricane season. The time from June 1- November 30 is always a little...
Dec 1, 20246 min read
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How Would I Have Answered
I had a follow up doctors appointment the other day. They asked some questions relating to safety, both physically and emotionally, at...
Sep 10, 20225 min read
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It Could Happen to You
I didn’t expect, at least not in these circumstances, to be so utterly triggered. But I was. During church. You may think it was because...
Jul 10, 20225 min read
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Refining Your Value
Defining Moments. That was a term one counselor used. Those are the things that happen in our lives that we take in and allow to define...
May 30, 20226 min read
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Broken and Alone
Often I hear partners doubt their own self worth and feel broken and alone. I get it. Spending years in a relationship where it’s said...
Feb 6, 20224 min read
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Happy New Year....?!!
Or not. It all depends on your perspective. Or how you spent last night with all of the expectations of fun with friends or family. Or...
Jan 1, 20225 min read
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Redeeming Christmas
It’s been a bit. And I’m sorry. Lot’s of emotions going on at this time of year. Lot's of loss and loved ones who are hurting. Lot's of...
Dec 10, 20215 min read
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Safety During The Holidays
Safety during the holiday season. Is it really possible? Yes….as long as you’re not trying to wing it. You need to be prepared. What...
Nov 14, 20216 min read
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Will It Ever Stop
When the waves of panic hit and we feel out of control barely able to stand, time and time again, wondering if it will ever stop, those...
Oct 17, 20215 min read
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How Does Emotional Abuse Fit?
Emotional abuse is everywhere and is something that we are all capable of doing, just like we can all gaslight. The difference is motive....
Oct 11, 20215 min read
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Navigating Through Grief
What does grieving look like? It’s different for everyone. Often we think it’s a linear process that starts at one place and through...
Sep 22, 20216 min read
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I Needed You, Friend
When I got married, it was forever. Or that’s what my intent was. Several years into my second marriage, I surrendered my heart to Jesus...
Aug 1, 20215 min read
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Boundaries with a Gaslighter
Boundaries with an Addict was one of my most read and referenced blogs. If you haven’t read it yet, please do so in order to better...
Jul 8, 20214 min read
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Broken by the Church
My heart is broken and I don’t know where to go from here. Let me explain. My last blog post was on not feeling safe at church. Other...
Jun 29, 20215 min read
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Will I Ever Feel Safe At Church?
Nothing like Covid-19 to screw up church attendance. But then again there’s Betrayal Trauma. As a faithful church attendee, I don’t...
Jun 22, 20215 min read
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Angry at God
This is a hard post to write but since this topic is so common with partners, who become filled with guilt, it's time. So, here we go.......
Jun 14, 20215 min read
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Formal Therapeutic Disclosure: How to prepare and what to expect
Last time I talked about disclosure and its purpose. I also shared that having a verbal disclosure, one where information is...
May 30, 20214 min read
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What do I need to know about Disclosure?
Any time there has been sexual betrayal it is wise to have a disclosure. If there is no chance of the marriage or relationship surviving,...
May 14, 20213 min read
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Trusting after Betrayal, part 2
**POTENTIAL TRIGGER WARNING** What does that look like when you don’t stay with your partner and move on into a new relationship? As a...
May 3, 20214 min read
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Boundaries with an Addict
Boundaries with an addict....this is a question I get asked. A lot. What do they look like? How do I keep them? When referring to an...
Apr 28, 20214 min read
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