It Could Happen to You
I didn’t expect, at least not in these circumstances, to be so utterly triggered. But I was. During church. You may think it was because...
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- May 30
- 6 min
Refining Your Value
Defining Moments. That was a term one counselor used. Those are the things that happen in our lives that we take in and allow to define...
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- Apr 9
- 6 min
It's Not Always As It Seems
From the outside looking in, it's not always what it seems. One would think you’re the luckiest girl alive. I’d actually been told that....
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- Mar 6
- 6 min
Marriage Counseling...is it the Right Choice
Well meaning friends and family want to help. They don’t know how or even what to say, so they make suggestions. See your pastor for...
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- Feb 6
- 4 min
Broken and Alone
Often I hear partners doubt their own self worth and feel broken and alone. I get it. Spending years in a relationship where it’s said...
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- Jan 9
- 5 min
Fear of Finances...Should I Have Stayed
The other day as I walked around my neighborhood in tears, I realized that I was letting fear have its grip on me. I realized that some...
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- Dec 10, 2021
- 5 min
Redeeming Christmas
It’s been a bit. And I’m sorry. Lot’s of emotions going on at this time of year. Lot's of loss and loved ones who are hurting. Lot's of...
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- Nov 14, 2021
- 6 min
Safety During The Holidays
Safety during the holiday season. Is it really possible? Yes….as long as you’re not trying to wing it. You need to be prepared. What...
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- Oct 17, 2021
- 5 min
Will It Ever Stop
When the waves of panic hit and we feel out of control barely able to stand, time and time again, wondering if it will ever stop, those...
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- Oct 11, 2021
- 5 min
How Does Emotional Abuse Fit?
Emotional abuse is everywhere and is something that we are all capable of doing, just like we can all gaslight. The difference is motive....
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- Sep 22, 2021
- 6 min
Navigating Through Grief
What does grieving look like? It’s different for everyone. Often we think it’s a linear process that starts at one place and through...
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- Aug 1, 2021
- 5 min
I Needed You, Friend
When I got married, it was forever. Or that’s what my intent was. Several years into my second marriage, I surrendered my heart to Jesus...
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- Jul 8, 2021
- 4 min
Boundaries with a Gaslighter
Boundaries with an Addict was one of my most read and referenced blogs. If you haven’t read it yet, please do so in order to better...
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- Jun 29, 2021
- 5 min
Broken by the Church
My heart is broken and I don’t know where to go from here. Let me explain. My last blog post was on not feeling safe at church. Other...
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- Jun 22, 2021
- 5 min
Will I Ever Feel Safe At Church?
Nothing like Covid-19 to screw up church attendance. But then again there’s Betrayal Trauma. As a faithful church attendee, I don’t...
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- Jun 14, 2021
- 5 min
Angry at God
This is a hard post to write but since this topic is so common with partners, who become filled with guilt, it's time. So, here we go.......
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- Jun 4, 2021
- 4 min
Gaslighting: the Epitome of Confusion
Am I really crazy? Did that really happen and I just don’t remember it? I could have sworn I saw/said/did ______ but I guess I was wrong....
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- May 30, 2021
- 4 min
Formal Therapeutic Disclosure: How to prepare and what to expect
Last time I talked about disclosure and its purpose. I also shared that having a verbal disclosure, one where information is...
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- May 14, 2021
- 3 min
What do I need to know about Disclosure?
Any time there has been sexual betrayal it is wise to have a disclosure. If there is no chance of the marriage or relationship surviving,...
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- May 3, 2021
- 4 min
Trusting after Betrayal, part 2
**POTENTIAL TRIGGER WARNING** What does that look like when you don’t stay with your partner and move on into a new relationship? As a...
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